Oh yes! The Holidays are here! Decorations everywhere, party invites and that dreaded question:”Still single?” or “Did you bring a special someone?”. Both no. Still single.
Any and every single person starts emotionally prepping for the Holidays the day after Halloween. We know its coming….the questions, the judgment and even the unsolicited advice. Whether its a family, friend or work party, believe me, everyone has advice.
“Have you tried online dating? Maybe you are not putting yourself out there enough? You have to find someone! You are beautiful, successful and so funny! I don’t get it? You have such a pretty face, maybe if you loose some weight, you can find someone…” Listen, I know, I don’t get it either. Also, I live in a continuous (unsuccessful) diet.
But navigating these questions has become an extreme sport! It’s an art to be able to answer but not really answer. For me it’s about taking control of the conversation and flip it to something else or put the attention on someone else. I think that as the years go by, I am more confident and my relationship status doesn’t define who I am. But not even going to lie, sometimes insecurities bubble up and make you doubt every decision in your past. It makes me think, did THE ONE get away? Did I not give a chance to someone who could have been my forever? Did I “play” too much in my twenties? (I mean I did🤷🏻♀️). #noregrets
Who knows!? All I know is that at the end of the day what keeps me sane during the Holidays, is knowing that there is someone out there for me. That patience is a virtue and settling is not an option.